Cherie Carter-Scott's, Ph.D Life Rules

1) You will receive a body.
You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.

2) You will learn lessons.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "life." Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid.

3) There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Growth is a process of experimentation - trial and error. The so-called "failed experiments" are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately "work".

4) A Lesson is repeated until learned.
It will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it you can then go on to the next lesson. If you do not learn easy lessons, they become harder. You will know you have learned a lesson when your actions change.

5) Learning lessons does not end.
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. Every person, every incident is the universal teacher. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

6) "There" is no better than "here."
Nothing leads to happiness. When your "there" has become a "here," you will simply obtain another "there" that again will look better than "here."

7) Others are merely mirrors of you.
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself.

8) What you create of your life is up to you.
You have all the tools and resources your need; what you do with them is up to you.

9) All your answers lie inside you.All you need to do is look, listen and trust.

10) You will forget all of this.

-Cherie Carter-Scott, Ph.D.
"If Life is a Game, These are the Rules"

Fire of Motivation

I believe in two premises:
(i) most people are good people, but can do better; and
(ii) most people already know what to do, so why aren't they doing it?

What is missing is the spark--motivation. Some self help books adopt the approach of teaching what to do; we take a different approach. We ask, "Why don't you do it?" If you ask people on the street what should be done, they will give you all the correct answers. But ask them whether they are doing it and the answer will be no. What is lacking is motivation.

The greatest motivation comes from a person's belief system. That means he needs to believe in what he does and accept responsibility. That is where motivation becomes important. When people accept responsibility for their behavior and actions, their attitude toward life becomes positive. They become more productive, personally and professionally. Their relationships improve both at home and at work. Life becomes more meaningful and fulfilled.

After a person's basic physical needs are met, emotional needs become a bigger motivator. Every behavior comes out of the "pain or gain" principle. If the gain is greater than the pain, that is the motivator. If the pain is greater than the gain, then that is a deterrent.

Gains can be tangible, such as: monetary rewards, vacations, and gifts. They can be intangible, such as: recognition, appreciation, sense of achievement, promotion, growth, responsibility, sense of fulfilment, self worth, accomplishment, and belief.

Inspiration is changing thinking; motivation is changing action.

Motivation is like fire unless you keep adding fuel to it, it dies. Just like exercise and food don't last long, neither does motivation. However, if the source of motivation is belief in inner values, it becomes long--lasting.

- Shiv Khera

Present, Past and Future

Past is Experience! Present is Experiment! Future is Expectation!
Use your Experience in u r Experiment to achieve u r Expectations!

5 Time Management Techniques

Aymen Fares often talk about time management techniques. People often tell him that they don't have time for themselves, in fact they just don't have time. He often asked how do I get more time for myself?

The answer is simple.

First and foremost, there is no such thing as you having less time than anyone else. We are all allocated the same number of minutes in a day. It's a question of what is most important to you. I hear people say "I haven't got time to do ..." That's an incorrect statement. You do have time. The fact is that you have placed another task higher in order of importance.

Here are some things you can do to free up your available time.

1. Priority. Give priority to what's important. Decide what's important and what's not. Do that which is important first. When you have finished then you can start on the unimportant tasks.

2. Say NO. When people ask you to do something say NO. You can't do everything. For some people it's very hard to say "NO" to other people. You might feel obligated to do something or you might be unable to say no. You need to examine why you do this and what is your 'true' motivator.

3. Delegate. If you are able to delegate something, do so. Delegation will free up an enormous amount of time. This includes paying someone to do something. Ie: If you pay someone to mow the lawn you get more time to spend with your family on the weekend. If you run a business this is especially important otherwise you will not be able to grow.

4. Handle Things Once Only. If you pick something up and start to think about it - finish the job now. Don't put it down just to pick it up again later. An example is tidying up. If you pick something up, put it away in its proper place NOT on the table out of harms way where it needs to be handled again later. Doubling up wastes time.

5. Make Yourself A Priority. This is the big one when it comes to time management techniques. I can't give you a short answer here. If you are constantly putting others ahead of yourself. If you find yourself doing tasks for others ahead of your own, you need to examine your belief systems and your self esteem. This is no easy task and I write extensively about it in the Key To Life Manual.

Source:Aymen Fares is an International Life Coach with clients all over the world. He is based in Melbourne Australia.

Specfic emotions

Specific emotions that weaken organism of the body...

ANGER weakens the LIVER...
GRIEF weakens the LUNGS....
WORRY weakens the STOMACH .....
STRESS weakens the HEART & BRAIN and FEAR fails the KIDNEY....

SO stay happy... look good,,, feel good and DO GOOD

Motivation

Seven Rules of Motivation

#1 Set a major goal, but follow a path. The path has mini goals that go in many directions. When you learn to succeed at mini goals, you will be motivated to challenge grand goals.

#2 Finish what you start. A half finished project is of no use to anyone. Quitting is a habit. Develop the habit of finishing self-motivated projects.

#3 Socialize with others of similar interest. Mutual support is motivating. We will develop the attitudes of our five best friends.

#4 Learn how to learn. Dependency on others for knowledge supports the habit of procrastination. Man has the ability to learn without instructors. In fact, when we learn the art of self-education we will find, if not create, opportunity to find success beyond our wildest dreams.

#5 Harmonize natural talent with interest that motivates. Natural talent creates motivation, motivation creates persistence and persistence gets the job done.

#6 Increase knowledge of subjects that inspires. The more we know about a subject, the more we want to learn about it. A self-propelled upward spiral develops.

#7 Take risk. Failure and bouncing back are elements of motivation. Failure is a learning tool. No one has ever succeeded at anything worthwhile without a string of failures.

Source Motivation-tools

Success in Life

True success depends more on inner means than outer means. The six A:s of success are:

1. Aptitude
Natural interest in a particular field. Somebody has an aptitude for music; somebody for arts; another for business; yet another for sports, etc. Some have an aptitude for aptitude tests! If you have the aptitude for something, concentration is natural in that field.

2. Aspiration
Enthusiasm in the mind. One-may have the aptitude, but one may not feel like doing the work at hand.

3 . Ability
One may have the enthusiasm to sing, but if there is no ability, it is torture for the listeners.

4. Application
One should be able to apply one's mind at any piece of work. Being focussed is a very important ingredient of success, whatever the field.

5 . Attitude
When the going gets tough, it is the tough who keeps going. Never get demoralised. Attitude determines the altitude - the heights to which you can go. Such a person sees an opportunity even in difficulty.

6. Altar of dedication
In life, if you have an altar, your life will alter. e.g. Mahatma Gandhi - an ordinary person underwent a complete transformation because of just one goal- the nation's independence. Generally, people work for filling up the stomach; some for money; others for power; there are others who serve the nation; devotees do everything for the Lord.

Success is not the final destination. Life is a journey - keep moving ahead. Sometimes, in life I don't get what I like. At such times I must like what I get. If you apply your mind, you will enjoy. Put in more effort in that which you find boring; cultivate a taste for it. Ultimately, understand that 'to act alone is in our hands'.

- Swami Tejomayananda